Have you ever been around someone with a low EQ (emotional quotient)? That isn’t very much fun. Few things can destroy a relationship faster than someone not being in control of their emotions. Emotionally unstable people cannot lead. How can you follow someone whose emotions, and attitude, change from minute-to-minute?
People with a low EQ have a difficult time handling change. Change always sparks some overblown, emotional, eruption. They don’t take the time to really find out what the change is all about, but their whole world has been turned upside down because things aren’t what they were yesterday. I bet you know people like this, people who over-react to everything.
Low EQ does not attract people. Anyone who aspires to leadership must develop emotional intelligence. EQ is a great indicator of whether or not a person is even leading himself. If you can’t lead yourself, you can’t effectively lead others. At best, a person with a low EQ is a manager. People do what he says because they are afraid, or they just don’t want to deal with another tantrum. People rarely have much respect for the person with low EQ, and their daily tantrums- which can be triggered by anything.
The best way to develop your Emotional Intelligence is through a self-directed leadership education. Listening to leadership audios, daily, is a great way to keep your attitude where it needs to be. Reading daily helps to grow your capacity to confront and overcome challenges. As your leadership grows, you will begin to look at everything as a challenge to help you grow even more. I know for me personally, the four things that help me improve my EQ are:
1. Reading God’s Word daily
2. Listening to Leadership cd’s daily
3. Reading daily from a leadership book
4. Associating with leaders
Tantrums and emotional meltdowns don’t have to be a part of your life. You can take control of your emotions and how you choose to respond to life. I challenge you: stop reacting emotionally to life and start responding thoughtfully to it. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this experience?”
That’s how leaders grow.